Archive for March, 2007

Not So Anonymous Anymore

Update: I’m taking the links out of the last 3 posts, because Kathy has stated she now has more trouble than she could have hoped for. That’s not why I did this. It’s a shame that a few jerks have to be this way, but it’s not for me to decide.

Kathy- I’m sorry. You didn’t ask to be the poster child for internet safety. You wrote to tell your readers why you were canceling some speaking engagements. I wish you the best in whatever you do.

Things appear to be calming down somewhat over the Kathy Sierra matter, but it’s not quite finished. I wrote yesterday on anonymity, but some of the folks directly involved in the offending websites have come out to speak their piece in this matter. I can appreciate it when people take responsibility for their actions, but I’m amazed at how easy it is for some to say “I’m sorry… but I didn’t really do anything wrong!”

The latest information includes:

  • Chris Locke responds to Kathy Sierra’s post in an email interview
  • Frank Paynter apologizes and Kathy Sierra offers forgiveness
  • The timeline of events, courtesy of Dan G.

I’m still unhappy about this entire thing, and especially concerned because some of these names are very, VERY well known names in blogging. I would imagine that teachers I have worked with may have read or linked to these folks. That could be a bad, bad thing if someone decides to follow those links and stumbles into this brouhaha.

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Anonymity in The Blogosphere

Disclaimer- I write 4 blogs, so if you want to know me better, you can read the others at Bernies World, Podcast for Educators, and 3 Bits of BS. It seems wrong to take issue with anonymity without first disclaiming my affiliations.

This is a follow up to my Sad Day post.

I don’t fall on either side of anonymity in the blogosphere. I think it’s because there is no black and white answer on the issue. Put simply, your anonymity should stop at the tip of my nose.

There are some solid reasons for anonymity. When you are writing about the organization you work for, and anonymity is the only way in which you can honestly bring to light what needs to be seen. When you are writing about your relationship, and you don’t wish for your partner to read what you write to process, anonymity is key. When you are writing about your children, and you need to protect them in a world where sleazeballs use the internet to hunt children, it’s expected.

When anonymity is a place for dirtbags to hide so they can demean, deride, bully, and threaten those who have a differing opinion, it is disgusting. When a woman has to read foul and hateful comments intimating her death and dismemberment anonymity is criminal.

I began blogging anonymously. I was looking for a job, griping about the one I had, and processing how I was going to deal with my family and the strife losing a job had caused. After doing it for a while, I decided I had little to hide. I have not published the names of my family, because they don’t deserve to be put in the limelight by my foibles. Other than that, I’m out there. I keep the name Bernie because it’s my nickname, and it is the title of the podcast and blog. Otherwise, I’m Vinny.

You know what? Generally, I don’t give a hoot if you choose to blog anonymously. Comment anonymously, lurk, whatever you want. BUT if you are going to cross the line between enthusiastic discourse and vile disrespect, I object.

Unfortunately, there is no Internet Police Force to challenge these schmucks. We have to police ourselves. We need to hold them accountable by calling them what they are, making sure that others know what they are, and by NOT driving traffic to their sites.

A lot of folks are speaking on this topic:
Groby Unplugged
Seth Godin
Incentive Intelligence
The Agitator
Fiat Lux
O’Reilly Radar
DIONEA
Climb To The Stars
The View From My Feet
… and many, many more. You’ll have no problem finding supporters. Unfortunately, just like a quarterback reading blitz, the cowardly anonymous commenters run for the sidelines.

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A Sad Day


A Sad ManeOriginally uploaded by . Update: Robert Scoble has decided to stop blogging for a week as a result of this. I appreciate his move as good for him. I disagree. I’ve never been big on silence as an answer. I’m more about full frontal assault. I am looking to get into the details on who is who and make sure that everyone knows who to look out for. This may become a bit of a theme for a few days. If you came for other stuff, please know I am not shifting gears permanently. However, Digital Father is very much about the free exchange of ideas between men (and women). As such, I will take a few days to defend that ideal. We’ll be back to normal (as normal as we can be) as soon as possible.

 

 

I feel very passionate about freedoms. Freedom to worship. Freedom from fear. Freedom of speech.

However, there are certain types of speech that are not protected. I just read an entry on Creating Passionate Users about Kathy, who had to cancel a number of public appearances because she received death threats on her blog.

Oh my God! These were not your run of the mill “I don’t like what you write” kind of responses. These were planned, detailed, BACKED UP WITH VISUAL EXAMPLES (!!) threats. Who wakes up in the morning and says “today I think I’ll photoshop a noose into a picture and post it on the internet’?

I can’t believe this could happen. Of course, I do, because I have met these people in all walks of life. But I’ve come to feel so free here. Saying what I think. Linking to other blogs when I find something cute and funny. Guess what? That might be one cute and funny post in between hateful, disgusting rants. That apparently may have been the case here. Jeneane Sessums may have linked the the blog that spawned this disgusting rant. (Update- or may be a part of the whole thing- I don’t know!)

As a lesson to us all, tread carefully in this new world. Stop by Kathy’s site while you are out and about and lend your support. I’ve stayed home for many reasons. I’ve been tired. I’ve been embarrassed. I’ve been angry. I’ve even been afraid of terrorists.

I’ve never had to be afraid because I wrote a blog. God help us all.

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March 11, 2007

Jodi Kantor
The New York Times
9 West 43rd Street
New York,
New York 10036-3959

Dear Jodi:

Thank you for engaging in one of the biggest misrepresentations of the truth I have ever seen in sixty-five years. You sat and shared with me for two hours. You told me you were doing a “Spiritual Biography” of Senator Barack Obama. For two hours, I shared with you how I thought he was the most principled individual in public service that I have ever met.

For two hours, I talked with you about how idealistic he was. For two hours I shared with you what a genuine human being he was. I told you how incredible he was as a man who was an African American in public service, and as a man who refused to announce his candidacy for President until Carol Moseley Braun indicated one way or the other whether or not she was going to run. I told you what a dreamer he was. I told you how idealistic he was. We talked about how refreshing it would be for someone who knew about Islam to be in the Oval Office. Your own question to me was, Didn’t I think it would be incredible to have somebody in the Oval Office who not only knew about Muslims, but had living and breathing Muslims in his own family?

I told you how important it would be to have a man who not only knew the difference between Shiites and Sunnis prior to 9/11/01 in the Oval Office, but also how important it would be to have a man who knew what Sufism was; a man who understood that there were different branches of Judaism; a man who knew the difference between Hasidic Jews, Orthodox Jews, Conservative Jews and Reformed Jews; and a man who was a devout Christian, but who did not prejudge others because they believed something other than what he believed.

I talked about how rare it was to meet a man whose Christianity was not just “in word only.”

I talked about Barack being a person who lived his faith and did not argue his faith. I talked about Barack as a person who did not draw doctrinal lines in the sand nor consign other people to hell if they did not believe what he believed.

Out of a two-hour conversation with you about Barack’s spiritual journey and my protesting to you that I had not shaped him nor formed him, that I had not mentored him or made him the man he was, even though I would love to take that credit, you did not print any of that. When I told you, using one of your own Jewish stories from the Hebrew Bible as to how God asked Moses, “What is that in your hand?,” that Barack was like that when I met him. Barack had it “in his hand.” Barack had in his grasp a uniqueness in terms of his spiritual development that one is hard put to find in the 21st century, and you did not print that.

As I was just starting to say a moment ago, Jodi, out of two hours of conversation I spent approximately five to seven minutes on…

… Barack’s taking advice from one of his trusted campaign people and deeming it unwise to make me the media spotlight on the day of his announcing his candidacy for the Presidency and what do you print?

You and your editor proceeded to present to the general public a snippet, a printed “sound byte” and a titillating and tantalizing article about his disinviting me to the Invocation on the day of his announcing his candidacy.

I have never been exposed to that kind of duplicitous behavior before, and I want to write you publicly to let you know that I do not approve of it and will not be party to any further smearing of the name, the reputation, the integrity or the character of perhaps this nation’s first (and maybe even only) honest candidate offering himself for public service as the person to occupy the Oval Office.

Your editor is a sensationalist. For you to even mention that makes me doubt your credibility, and I am looking forward to see how you are going to butcher what else I had to say concerning Senator Obama’s “Spiritual Biography.”

Our Conference Minister, the Reverend Jane Fisler Hoffman, a white woman who belongs to a Black church that Hannity of “Hannity and Colmes” is trying to trash, set the record straight for you in terms of who I am and in terms of who we are as the church to which Barack has belonged for over twenty years.

The president of our denomination, the Reverend John Thomas, has offered to try to help you clarify in your confused head what Trinity Church is even though you spent the entire weekend with us setting me up to interview me for what turned out to be a smear of the Senator; and yet The New York Times continues to roll on making the truth what it wants to be the truth.

I do not remember reading in your article that Barack had apologized for listening to that bad information and bad advice. Did I miss it? Or did your editor cut it out? Either way, you do not have to worry about hearing anything else from me for you to edit or “spin” because you are more interested in journalism than in truth.

Forgive me for having a momentary lapse. I forgot that The New York Times was leading the bandwagon in trumpeting why it is we should have gone into an illegal war. The New York Times became George Bush and the Republican Party’s national “blog.” The New York Times played a role in the outing of Valerie Plame. I do not know why I thought The New York Times had actually repented and was going to exhibit a different kind of behavior. Maybe it was my faith in the Jewish Holy Day of Roshashana. Maybe it was my being caught up in the euphoria of the Season of Lent; but whatever it is or was, I was sadly mistaken. There is no repentance on the part of The New York Times. There is no integrity when it comes to The Times. You should do well with that paper, Jodi. You looked me straight in my face and told me a lie!

Sincerely and respectfully yours,
Reverend Jeremiah A. Wright, Jr. ,
Senior Pastor
Trinity United Church of Christ

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“Don’t be a wimp”

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I saw this article a few weeks ago, thanks to Adventure Dad. In it, a group of women in Devin, England are charged with “causing… children to be ill treated in a manner likely to cause unnecessary suffering or injury.” They admitted to taunting 2 children into fighting. When I say children, I should actually say toddlers.

It’s yet another circumstance where you begin to wonder whether we should be licensing parents. As it says in the article:

The boy, aged two, is seen crying after being punched in the face by the three-year-old girl and is told by one of the four women in the room “not to be a wimp or a faggot” and to hit her back.

The more time I spend on this planet, the less impressed I am by it’s inhabitants. There are not enough islands to stick these folks on.

No Snow? Be the Hero!

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As we settle in for 10 inches of snow, I recall just a month ago I was clamoring for ANY snow. What a hero I would have been had I owned the SG-5 LED Snowmaker. All you need is a power washer, a compressor, and the right weather.

Imagine the looks on the kids faces when they wake up to a yard full of snow made by you. Imagine all their friends clamoring to visit the house with the cool dad. Imagine the grimace on your neighbor’s faces as you run your compressor ALL NIGHT LONG! Imagine the summons and subsequent fine for noise violations. (Our local ordinance says no power tools between 8pm and 7am most days)

Oh yeah- If you are a do-it-yourselfer, you can buy plans to make your own snow maker! Yeah- I’ll get right on that…

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